Adoption, Abortion or Parenting?
Consider All The Possibilities…
The decision you are facing has many different dimensions. Take a look at the choices from four different angles to help you decide what is the best choice for you.
1. Physical / Emotional: Which decision will provide the best environment for my child?
Abortion
Parenting
Do I want the baby’s father to be involved in the care and raising of my child, or is our relationship such that it is not the best environment for our child? At my age, am I ready for marriage to the baby’s father, and/or can I provide stability for my child alone-physically, emotionally, financially?
Adoption
Is my situation such that it would be best for a happily married and emotionally stable couple to provide for my child if I cannot?
2. Relational: Which decision will provide the best stable environment for my child?
Abortion
Abortion will not guarantee that your relationship will remain as committed as before. Statistics show that 70% of all partners break up within three months following abortion. Some women choose abortion to “please their man.” If your partner wants you to abort your baby, ask him why. Does he not want the responsibility of raising your child? Is he financially unstable? Why is he in this sexual relationship with you if he is not ready to father any children that may come along? Does he want his freedom? Does he not want to be tied down to parenting? These are serious questions that deserve serious answers. Is this what you want to live with….an abortion due to someone else’s selfish motives and sexual drives?
Parenting
Is the birth father committing to his part of raising this baby with me? Am I willing to share the responsibility with him? Is marriage part of our plan? Why am I having a sexual relationship with this person? What does he mean to me? Is this relationship a healthy one? If not, do I have the means to parent alone? How will I hold a job, finish school and raise my child?
Adoption
Does the birth father have a place in my future? Is he supportive of an adoption plan? Does he need to visit adoption agencies with me?
3. Financial: Which decision will provide the best stable environment for my child?
Abortion
Will paying for my abortion add to the guilt I feel? What about my emotional “cost’s?”
Parenting
Can I earn enough to cover finances to raise my child? Am I willing and able to put my child’s needs above my own for a time? Is the baby’s father willing and able to help support this child?
Adoption
If I am not financially able to support my child at this time, is it best if I make an adoption plan for my child in a stable home, and then do what I can in the future to get on my feet to provide for myself, a future marriage or career, and future children?
4. Spiritual: Which decision can I live with spiritually?
Abortion
Will abortion cut off my relationship with God? Do I know what the Bible says about abortion? Have I prayed about my situation or do I want to avoid God as I contemplate an abortion? Why?
Parenting
Do I have a spiritual life? What are my values? What values do I want for my child? How will I live them out? How will I provide this stability for my child?
Adoption
If I choose adoption, I want to choose a family from my religious background, and who have the same values I want for my child. I can feel good about making this decision. I can feel good about myself and feel good that I have done the best I can in placing my baby in a stable, spiritual, household.